First Entry (I know it's a little early)

For my first entry in the T.L.C. Chronicles archive I decided that I would discuss the fear of flying. I figured it is very apropos as these are stories about travel. Well, the truth is that flying as a mode of transportation is here to stay. It is fast and efficient. Unless you plan on going only short distances the rest of your life and driving or taking a boat or a train, then chances are you will have to step on a plane at some point. This brings me to my seatmate. Seated next to me was a young woman clutching the armrests, white-knuckled, and muttering something about needing a drink. The airplane door hadn't even been closed yet. She finally said after a few minutes, "I hate flying. It's my second time, and I am absolutely terrified!" She was here because a sibling's wedding across country with no time off from work to allow for driving all the way had left her no choice. If you too, have a fear of flying here are some tips:

• Remember that flying is actually safer than driving. Airplane crashes are so much rarer than car crashes which is why they make the news. In actuality there are so many regulations in effect that flying is very safe.


• Take someone with you who can distract you with conversation or hold your hand. Their calm attitude toward flying may reassure you as well. If you can't bring anyone, then look around at the other passengers. They will most likely be sleeping, reading, etc. Some people even bring their pets for reassurance. You can't take them out on the plane, but having them there can help.


• Remember the reason you are traveling and get excited about that. Change your focus away from the flying part. You could even purchase a new suitcase, outfit, book, etc. to be used only on the trip and get excited about that.


• Always bring something to do on the plane. Bring such things as a dvd player, book, ipod, crossword puzzle, laptop, or anything else that can distract you.


• Use positive thinking and creative visualization. Picture yourself landing safely and having a great time at your destination.


• Start with small, short flights; then your courage will build, and you can take that vacation in Hawaii you've always dreamed about.


• Lastly, take a deep breath and enjoy the ride.

Back to my seatmate, I asked her about the wedding and her family and as she talked, she relaxed. We arrived at our destination safely, and although her fear of flying didn't go away, she chose to deal with it in order to not miss out on an important event in her life. I had to commend her for her bravery at facing her fear. It is tough but possible. Until next month...get out of the past, look toward the future, but live in the now.