As a life coach I help people with relationships of all kinds. This blog is no exception. However, this is about a conflict between an owner, his dog, and his fiancé. I was chatting with a young businessman the other day, and throughout the course of the conversation his beloved dog came up. His fiancé had just moved in with him, and his dog was not as pleased about the change as he was. I told him that since he had been living alone and that she was his only dog, she was probably a little jealous of having to share his normally undivided attention with the new housemate. With this in mind I gave him a few tips to help the situation.
- Be sure your fiancé has an open mind and is not resistive towards the dog. Dogs are very receptive, and it will be natural for your fiancé to resist the dog when the dog is not accepting her, but she must rise above it and show affection and care, not indifference.
- Your fiancé should be affectionate toward the little dog, but not too affectionate or overbearing.
- The move is a big change for the dog, so try to keep other aspects of the dog’s life and routine as close to normal as possible so as not to add unnecessary stress.
- Involve your fiancé in the care of your dog. Have her feed her or give her treats or brush her or walk her. This will get the dog used to your fiancé as a provider/caretaker as well as you.
- And throughout all of this make sure your dog is still getting the attention from you that she always was. Be sure to give the dog undivided attention, just the two of you, as well as sharing attention among the three of you.
And so with a little patience this dog should be warming up to his fiancé in no time and will start to realize that she will now be getting twice the affection and pets than she was before. Until August…get out of the past, look toward the future, but live in the NOW.
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