Difference of Opinion

This time on my travels I came across a man who was very upset, and after some small talk it was revealed that his girlfriend of five years had broken up with him, even though they still loved each other. I wondered why and then was told that the reason for the roadblock to their bliss was marriage. He did not want to get married and she did. And after five years, they weren’t married and weren’t getting married, and she took it to mean that he really wasn’t as committed as he said he was. And due to this difference of opinion, they were no longer together. So here are some options if you find yourself in this type of situation.

• Reflect. Each party needs to reflect on what he or she wants or needs out of a relationship.
  
• Figure out if marriage is or is not of major importance and explain the reasons to your partner. Understanding can go a long way.
  
• Do not try to pressure or force your partner into doing what you want, because that can lead to resentment.
  
• Look for possible compromises. Perhaps a ceremony could be performed but without the usual binding legal contract. Or maybe you could come up with your own tradition or ritual as a couple that could appease both of you.
  

What it all comes down to is that you must decide if the relationship is worth saving and ultimately what is right for you and your future happiness. Until next month…get out of the past, look toward the future, but live in the NOW.